Comments on: What's Your Emotional Style?

By: Kathryn Locantore

Kathryn Locantore — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 08:22:35 +0000

I thought the blog entry was very interesting and i do get upset over the tiniest little things. Sometimes it does take someone to calm me down, I believe for anyone the comfort of having someone there makes them feel better , so they know that there not alone. While others at time really don’t want company, they just want to be alone.

By: Go4Counseling Shrinklady

Go4Counseling Shrinklady — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 11:17:06 +0000

As I understand it, folks that are on a hair trigger have what is referred to as “kindled” brains. They are “kindled” due to trauma. Through traumatic experiences the brain learns that it’s best to react this way to avoid harm.

However, what’s really interesting is that these same “kindled” brains can be “quenched”. The brain can be reset to a lower buzzing rate (for the lack of a better word.)

I use body psychotherapy all the time which does just that.

By: Natalie Graham

Natalie Graham — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 04:51:59 +0000

Hi there!

I’ve been dong a lot of reading (and listening to talks by) on Dan Goleman and his work on emotional and social intelligence and find it completely inspiring! The essence of this work for me is key to true and positive change in the world through improving people’s relationships with one another whether through work, home or family and people generally that we come in contact with in life. It’s just beautiful and I know for myself that the work I’ve done in my personal journey over the years has improved my life in an invaluable way. My question then for you is in regards to groups or organisations that are directly involved in helping this change come about through training and research. I am aware that many training organisations have altered their own training programs and included them under the banner of Dan’s coined phrase ‘EI’ without actually going through and formulating effective courses in this area so I realise that I need to be discerning.

I have a bachelors degree in Natural Medicine and have a background and radiography and have also done a unit in psychology. I am therefore wanting to know if you have a list of groups or organisations that are doing this so that I can get in contact with them to find out how I can get involved and make a transition in my career into this wonderful area…and whether or not that necessitates a degree in psychology for instance. If you could offer any assistance in this area whatsoever it would be immensely appreciated.

Kindest Regards,

Natalie

By: Andrea

Andrea — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 23:20:33 +0000

Great post. I will read your book to help me understand my EI and SI.

By: Katie

Katie — Fri, 07 Nov 2008 04:02:41 +0000

I’m completely fascinated with Social Intelligence and I’m about half way through the book. Your comments about how quickly we recover from an emotionally unsettling event don’t take into account a person’s explanatory style (from Martin Seligman’s book Learned Optimism). Is there any evidence that the changes in cortisol are the reason for the slow recovery from an emotional event, or just another effect?

By: saeede

saeede — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 04:33:21 +0000

Dear mr. Goleman
I,m an English teacher and have MA in ELT.I am going to do a research on the relationship between the emotional intelligence of Irainian students and their acheivement at school.would you please help me knowing the emotional intelligence and the ways of improving it?I will wait for your kind answers.Thank you very much.

By: sheron

sheron — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 10:36:48 +0000

Hello Daniel and contributors,

i am a high performance business & life coach and i curently use a profiling technology based on attitude and it is a system that works which is brillant and accurate. I want to learn more about EI so where can i become an accredited EI profiler and can i use the EI assessment tool by Daniel Goleman?

thanks i will await your answer Cheers Sheron

By: Sheri A. Callahan

Sheri A. Callahan — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 14:15:26 +0000

I continue to be thrilled with your insights! I just attended a conference in which we used the tools of Social Intelligence to enhance the paractice of mediation. I have used my EQ skills, but am thrilled to now gravitate to another facet. Thanks for your broadminded thinking!
A practioner that has felt the value!

By: Nancy

Nancy — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 04:34:49 +0000

Hi, Ben,
I just finished an EQ peer to peer meeting in San Jose,US.I will be back to London tomorrow. My mentor gave me a whole book list which includes Daniel Goleman’s publishings.I would like to share information with you if you are interested in. my email is nancyliu8@msn.com

By: RD

RD — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 10:59:56 +0000

Interesting in many ways. Another intuitive thought would be the impact of the full range of your emotional and physical baggage. I lost my wife from Huntingtons. She went from laid back to an emotional mess as a result. I worry about things, but tend to not react on my worries until they slide by. I’m either a procrastinator or have learned to be patient. I’m dating a wonderful lady who is far more emotional than I, well not more emotional, but hangs on to her emotional response as you refer to in your post. Although this relationship is far different than previous, I’m probably experiencing a role change as the ‘calmer’ of the two. It’s as if the degrees of your observations come in to play along a emotional response curve in some way. Great post. If you don’t mind, I’ll lurk from time to time.